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Diamonds and Pearls of WisdomThe DivorceWizards Blog, by Lynne DiamondI Know Nothing Good Comes From Divorce...Saturday, October 28, 2006 My friend told me that when she came to pick up her son from a play date with my son. She thanked me for keeping her kid all day; told me the baby took a long nap; and she and her hubby had a chance to talk and decided to get a divorce."I disagree" I told her. Often, not always, good things come out of divorce. Here are some examples. Sometimes, an uninvolved father turns into a really good dad when a stressful marriage is put to rest. Sometimes, either or both people may meet their soul mate and live happily ever after with them. Sometimes, the person without a career may develop a successful career which makes them more happy than staying home as a married. Not true, I say. Many good things may come from divorce. Actually the woman who said that to me ended up reconciling with her husband. Once they were pushed against the wall, they decided to try to save their marriage. And why not? Marriage is something certainly worth saving. There are those who think the grass is greener on the other side – one divorced woman once told me that sometimes, there isn’t even any grass – only dirt. So certainly try to save your marriage if you can. If not, at least save the divorce. Go the peaceful route so you won’t need to hold on to bitterness for the rest of your life. Whitney Houston, Welcome to the NeighborhoodMonday, October 16, 2006 Just a few weeks ago, we welcomed Whitney to our neighborhood in Orange County. She moved here and filed for Legal Separation from husband Bobby. Then last Friday, we heard that she amended her legal separation to a divorce. We know why she did that – no mystery – although the media would have you believe otherwise – she probably didn’t meet the residency requirement for filing in Orange County – that is, living here for three months – so her only choice, if she wanted to file quickly, was to go for a Legal Separation and wait for the three months to pass, then switch to a divorce. She requested physical custody with Bobby Brown getting rights of visitation. That means the kids will live with her, right here in my neighborhood, and Bobby can see them according to the schedule they work out. Wonder what the child support will be? And how about spousal support? Who will pay whom?Maybe we can find out and let you know Paul McCartney, I'm availableFriday, October 13, 2006 Can't say that I'm sorry that Paul McCartney is getting a divorce from Heather Mills. She never even heard of the Beatles when she was growing up -- so what's up with that. A few years ago, I watched a PM music video and saw how they interacted - very sarcastic and biting conversation - certainly not what the sweet Beatle deserved.And now public allegations and accusations - isn't there enough money to go around for a nice quiet settlement. Why air the dirty laundry? Heather, Paul - have you not heard of confidential mediation? It's better for the kids - why should baby Beatrice need to hear all this. When you get divorced, you should consider all the options concerning the process. One option is to mediate - another is to be a drama queen. Mediation is cheaper and less stressful. Drama queen/king is expensive, takes a long time, and hurts everyone around you, most of all you. |